Turn jealousy to your advantage

 Hey, there humans!

Let us hop right into the topic "JEALOUSY" or sometimes my friends call it "Jelly Jelly :p"

As you all know by the word, it does not bring any pleasantness to the table, does it? so how can we convert this not-so-good emotion into something that makes us feel vibrant again?

Humans are social creatures, we often look for our ways to connect with people, and thanks to the modern tech that led us into different social media platforms, which in my opinion can help us to connect with people of similar kind or we may go spiraling into a rabbit hole of  "void" (Just like the GOT's spiral meme of fan theories about night king went into the drain IYWIM wink).

Because of the so-called instant gratification apps, we are drawn to feel jealous of people posting about their vacation pictures or career accomplishments Ummm and the list goes on. And it's completely normal because we are trained to be that way in the matrix, turning up one against the other. Sansa's reply to lord baelish

So today I'm going to list out two different ways of looking at "Jealousy".

Perspective one: When something good happens to someone, instead of immediately reacting with jealousy, pause... take a deep breath (yes a long one though :p) and become aware that when good things happen around you, it is a direct hint from the universe that good things will happen to you too, if only you allow it.

Example: 

One day you are randomly scrolling through LinkedIn and came across a post that someone got promoted , in that moment instead of draining yourself with the thoughts of jealousy or comparing yourself with that person , you can switch those thoughts to "Wow If he/she got promoted then something good will happen to me too",  I couldn't stress enough of practicing this perspective every time you face this emotion because our thoughts are direct manifestations of our reality, and if you always feel negative about someone's accomplishments then you will always get to see similar situations again and again and again, so to break this loop of constant nothingness, you can practice to switch those negative emotions into something that you will be thrilled to look forward to. Annnnddd it takes time but eventually you will see good things in your life too.

 Of course, you will not always feel jealous, when that someone is your real friend, you'd definitely be happy about that, and if you don't, let's just say you are not a genuine friend and you got to re-align and question yourself about the relationship with that friend. (Ahem Ahem lot of work)

Perspective two: This perspective is pretty darn useful when you are feeling stuck and have no idea about the next chapter in your life or simply don't know what "some x thing" to choose. The emotion jealousy is tricky, it makes us believe that this feeling is bad but in fact, it is one of the ways of getting "The answer" to our existential questions, if you have read my previous post about "We decide our past/present/future?" you'd know what exactly I'm talking about.

When you are in this phase, please become aware of "who/what" you are jealous of, because that "who/what" is the direct answer to "what/how" you want the next phase of your life to look like.

let's jump to your favorite part "the example :p "

Lets just say that you are confused about what you want to do in your career or you want to shift your career but not sure which one to pick , so when you see/meet someone who is working in "some x" career and you get immediately jealous .That's it, that's your messiah, ask them how they reached that position and why they chose that field , ask all kinds of questions .And if you are not comfortable doing that ,we have "Google thalli(Mom) :p"  

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If someone goes on a vacation on a cruise and you feel jealous of it , switch that thought to "How cool is that , I definitely want to do that in some x time" .

So I say write up all those things that you are jealous of and that is your bucket list/checklist of the goals for your next phase.

If you already know that the universe has your back no matter what, feeling jealous of something/someone will be completely out of the question because you are aware that there is an infinite amount of happiness/wealth/opportunities to each and every one of us.

So next time you feel jealous make sure you use these hacks and take that first leap to come out of the matrix!

Adios!!